Valentine’s Day is a great idea to set aside time for remembering those we love. In fact, it is even more than just remembering; it is romancing. And as for romance, we do it well! Marketing shows that Valentines’ day is one of the most expensive holidays- last year we spent approximately 17.6 billion on flowers, candy, and presents for our loved ones (visualeconomics.com). That is approximately $126.03 per person- that is up 53% from 2001.
I don’t know about you, but I don’t have that kind of money, and neither do most of the couples that I see. Many couples come to me and ask “What can we do to celebrate V-day without spending too much money? Here are some ideas to celebrate each other without breaking the bank.
- Build a romantic fire. Before the kids go to bed, have fun roasting marshmallows. After their lights are out, host your own indoor picnic, complete with a bottle of wine and chocolate-covered strawberries.
- Recreate your first date together. What were you wearing? Where did you go? Do you remember what you
talked about? Spend the evening reminiscing and reflecting on how far you’ve come as a couple.
- Make a tape of the songs special to your relationship. Include ‘your song,’ songs from your past, songs from favorite movies. Add a personal voice dedication and leave it in your partner’s briefcase, Ipod, or car stereo.
- Have a scavenger hunt. Write a few poems, wrap candy kisses inside, and hide them around the house. Each poem should be a clue to finding the next one. Make sure the final clue lands your mate someplace you want to end up for the entire evening. A romance package, including a bottle of champagne and new lingerie, is a nice touch.
- Speaking of poems, I don’t know of anyone who doesn’t appreciate an original poem written entirely for them. Some tips on how to do that here
Be creative with your imagination, not your wallet. I guarantee you that your partner will remember this holiday for a long time!
Well, here we are again, the most loved/hated month of the year, depending on your perspective. Actually, there are as many couples who dislike this holiday as much as singles. That’s because there is so much pressure that is put on us for V Day-that this one day out of the year should be the perfect union of intimacy, happiness and love with our partners. While logically we know that can’t be the case, it’s hard to ignore the marketing messages in February. But- we have the power to change the message! Bottom line is that February is about LOVE- and that includes everyone, in all relationships. Wouldn’t it be refreshing to see commercials of friends, family members and other loved ones sharing celebrations of V Day? What about sending your ex husband or wife a card? Your boss, employee or co-worker? We can spread a huge amount of joy and love without being tied into the commercialization on V day- and feel great by doing it. And if it’s yourself that needs a little love, here’s some ideas for that too. I think I’ll get started now- I hope you do too!
When you are in a committed relationship, Valentine’s Day is the most important day of the entire year. You should show your undying love for each other and celebrate the magnificent connection that you have through spending large amounts of money on flowers, candy and jewelry. You should be planning the entire day’s event months in advance, and spending a huge amount of time on making sure that each and every detail is taken care of. Be forewarned; if you are not doing everything that you possibly can to make your partner feel incredibly special then you will probably crush their heart.
Are you feeling stressed yet? Does this seem just a bit over the top?
While the above is what the retailers and commercials would have us believe, we know deep down that Valentine’s Day is a commercial holiday, not about love and relationships. In its current form, V day is about selling candy, flowers and diamond jewelry. Valentines is a day of stress for many couples, worrying about what gift will send exactly the right message about their love. So, what message do you really want to send to your partner? Here are some great ideas that are easy, inexpensive and truly come from the heart.
- Make a list of why you love your partner, or your favorite things about them. Think about the specific things that make you smile. The list can be hidden in a card, small gift or book of poems.
- Frame a favorite picture of the two of you as a couple and give as a gift. Pair it with a simple picnic of wine and cheese.
- Skip the restaurants, and create a romantic dinner at home. Make it easy by picking up prepared foods at Trader Joes or your favorite restaurant, and make it special by setting a nice table with candles, flowers and table cloth. Do a fondue with cheese and bread, or just a dessert fondue. Spending the quiet time at home is far more romantic than fighting the crowds.
- Make a CD mix-up of the songs that remind you of your partner. Deliver it and sing the songs to them- guaranteed to make a hit.
- Give simple, inexpensive but luxurious gifts of soaps, oils and bath salts. Many places sell beautiful products that are very affordable. Try doing a couples massage or bath.
- Create a video about the special times that you have shared, using photos from the past of the two of you. Upload the video on YouTube or Facebook so that your partner can see it (and so can their friends!)
Hopefully, these ideas will generate some creativity of your own, or you can just use these to make your V Day truly memorable. Don’t stress about how you should show your love to your partner- just do it! Remember, Valentine’s Day should be about loving each other, not the commercials.