Well I don’t know about you, but I have NO idea where this year has gone- I swear I was just writing the New Year’s message just yesterday. The holidays are here (like it or not!) and the next 4 weeks will be full of rushing around, spending too much money, bickering with loved ones and stressing out. Do I sound like a Scrooge? I’m really not- but the holidays can bring out either the best or worst in all of us, depending on how you handle things. In this month’s issue of Healthy Relationships, I try and give you some ideas of how to really enjoy the holidays again- bring back the feeling of magic that a holiday should be. Remember, you are in control of what you do, think and feel- and that includes the right to say “No” when needed. Don’t forget that the idea of a “traditional” family has changed for many of us- and with it the old routines and expectations that we had. Read here for my latest interview with the Albuquerque Journal on what makes the holidays great in blended families. Above all- try and take care of yourself and the New Year will be here soon!
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As the New Year begins, sometimes we feel depressed after the hectic holidays. The celebrations are over, weather is cold, business seems quiet, and you may be at a loss for how to get yourself going again. We can begin to mentally prepare for this coming year by taking time to assess our personal and professional challenges and accomplishments for the past year. Here are some questions to ask yourself:
1. What have I accomplished this year? Be specific. Write it all down. Schedule some time to celebrate this!
2. What have I learned this year? What skills did you pick up? What emotional lessons?
3. What got in my way? This is where your work will be next year. Be honest if it was your own self that got in the way.
4. Who contributed to my successes? What can you do to recognize these members of your personal or professional team?
5. What mistakes did I make, and what did I learn from them? Writing these down is a good refresher for what not to do next year.
6. How was my work consistent with my values? What will you do with the inconsistencies?
7. Where did I not take responsibility? Sometimes this is easier to see with a little distance from the actual event.
8. How did my performance rate? Give yourself a letter grade or a 1-10 score.
9. What do I need to let go of? Doing so can help you move much more lightly into the new year.
10. What was missing for me this year? How can you incorporate them into next year?
Doing these exercises can be a huge benefit to starting your year of on the right foot.