by Alan D. Wolfelt PhD
Alan Wolfelt writes like he talks – directly, simply and passionately. His explanation of the differences between grief and mourning is enlightening and he gives very practical examples and steps to help us work through our grief by sharing our carried grief in ways appropriate to each of us. And he reminds us, it’s not about ‘getting over it’, it’s about acknowledging our grief and working through the grief so that more light can shine into our lives. It is a profound book.
Explaining how multitudes of North Americans are carrying the pain of all types of loss-not just the deaths of loved ones but also the loss of a spouse through divorce, children who leave home, and the decline of health as they age or get sick-this balanced resource empowers mourners to turn grief into an experience to be learned from. Defining the varieties of heartache and its consequences, this effective guide explores how to inventory, understand, embrace, and reconcile one’s accumulated sorrow through a five-phase “catch-up” mourning process. Readers will learn to use a spiritual and holistic approach to examine and integrate the ignored loss from their pasts, so that they can go on to live fuller, more balanced lives.