Rescuing Your Most Important Relationships

JournalingHere’s some tips on how to deal with change without falling apart:

  1. Face your feelings about the change, especially when the change is imposed and beyond your control. Get past “Why me?” “But I don’t want to!” and “It isn’t fair!” Figure out what your fears or worries are. That takes work. You don’t have to be a victim, even when you are not in control of the change. Write about your feelings in a journal or talk them out with a friend.
  2. Figure out when to accept and when to reject the change. Have you heard the serenity prayer? Reflect on what you are accepting, what you are rejecting, and what you are doing something about. You will be amazed at how effective your choices are.
  3. Adopt an attitude of anticipation, and be grateful. Welcome change as an opportunity. Find the benefit somewhere in the change. There is always a benefit and an opportunity. Start by keeping a written record for 3 days. Every day, note 3 things, large or small, that you are grateful for. You will notice a more powerful attitude of anticipation growing.
  4. Choose your thoughts and attitudes about each change. Negative thoughts block your creativity and problem-solving abilities. Positive thoughts build bridges to possibilities and opportunities. Keep a record of the choices you make in your thoughts and attitudes.
  5. Learn to relax by doing deep breathing or exercise- that helps most of us to relax. Choose the way that works best for you. Relaxation allows you to deal well with change.
  6. Set SMART goals so you can consciously guide the change. Smart goal setting helps you decide how to make the change happen and to recognize your successes. Write out your goals and your plans to meet them.

“If you’re gonna make a change, you’re gonna have to operate from a new belief that says life happens not  to me, but for me.”

– Tony Robbins
Now, put these tips and strategies to work for you and never fear change again!

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