Most of us have been there. We’ve put effort into a relationship only to have it end. The thoughts and emotions that get stirred up can undoubtedly be unhealthy to our well-being. However, there are 6 ways to protect yourself as you move forward:
1) Be Positive: Don’t allow yourself to question your sense of self worth. When you begin to go down this dangerous road say to yourself, “No, I’m not going there!” Replace the self-hate with a positive message about yourself.
2) Acceptance is Key: Sometimes, it’s really hard to face a truth. However, if you continue to hold on, healing becomes very difficult.
3) Distraction Helps: You’ve just experienced a loss. Allow yourself some time to grieve, and then move on. Reach out to friends or watch a cheesy movie.
4) Do What your Good at: Doing things you know you’re good at will give you a sense of accomplishment and remind you of your strengths.
5) Know Yourself: Crisis is always an opportunity. Use this time to figure out who you are by asking yourself questions like, “What are my needs?” or, “How did I end up here again?” Recognizing a pattern and learning about yourself are essential for personal growth.
6) Envision a Bright Future: Take a few minutes each day to visualize the positive qualities you want in a relationship. There is no perfect relationship and no perfect partner, but your vision can be a guide as you begin to re-enter the world of dating.
While break-ups are difficult, we have the ability to learn from them. If you follow these six important steps, you will be on your way toward healing, positive change and growth!
Bryan Norman 2011